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kriadydragon) wrote2010-07-07 07:00 pm
kriadydragon) wrote2010-07-07 07:00 pm
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Must... Rant!
So I made the mistake of watching this "special" (an VH1 which really should have been my biggest warning) on virginity. I don't know why I thought they would be subjective about it, I don't know why I thought they would actual show some respect toward virginity and those who choose to wait until they're married before they have sex. I don't know why I watched this show when most of the media has made up its mind that virginity = losers.
I am so sick and tired of virginity being put down, and that if you're a virgin then *sarcasm*obviously there's something wrong with you*sarcasm* or that waiting until you're married is impossible because *sarcasm*everyone fails to biology eventually*sarcasm*. Yeah, tell that to all the people I know who waited until they were married and, oh, yeah, they're married, and didn't hurry to get married just so they could lose their virginity.
Humans have this nifty thing called agency. Agency is the freedom to chose, to decide whether to give in to biological urges or to hold off. If a person doesn't want to have sex, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them, it doesn't mean they're asexual or anything else. It simply means they made a choice and are sticking with it. What the crap is wrong with that? Why has virginity become such an "ew, yucky!" thing? And how can no one see what is horribly wrong with this picture! (because, last I checked, it was usually sexually promiscuous people who had to worry about sexually transmitted diseases, not virgins. And, last I heard, hasn't teen pregnancy been on the rise?)
Nothing gets my hackles up like anti-virginity sentiments. All the more so because it's so subtle, not out-and-out anti but certainly leaning heavily in that direction - as in like trying to hide an elephant behind a baby tree :P
I am so sick and tired of virginity being put down, and that if you're a virgin then *sarcasm*obviously there's something wrong with you*sarcasm* or that waiting until you're married is impossible because *sarcasm*everyone fails to biology eventually*sarcasm*. Yeah, tell that to all the people I know who waited until they were married and, oh, yeah, they're married, and didn't hurry to get married just so they could lose their virginity.
Humans have this nifty thing called agency. Agency is the freedom to chose, to decide whether to give in to biological urges or to hold off. If a person doesn't want to have sex, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them, it doesn't mean they're asexual or anything else. It simply means they made a choice and are sticking with it. What the crap is wrong with that? Why has virginity become such an "ew, yucky!" thing? And how can no one see what is horribly wrong with this picture! (because, last I checked, it was usually sexually promiscuous people who had to worry about sexually transmitted diseases, not virgins. And, last I heard, hasn't teen pregnancy been on the rise?)
Nothing gets my hackles up like anti-virginity sentiments. All the more so because it's so subtle, not out-and-out anti but certainly leaning heavily in that direction - as in like trying to hide an elephant behind a baby tree :P
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This isn't wild kingdom and we 'do' have a choice. To criticize others for being strong enough to hold onto their beliefs or just their plain old common-sense is wrong.
If Teen pregnancy, (or single parenting) and STDs, AIDS etc. isn't enough incentive to wait then I don't know what is. It's like literally playing russian roulette with your life. I don't understand why someone would take such cavalier risks and then call someone who doesn't a loser. It makes no sense.
As for VH1 and their 'special' they can't be subjective about it because their argument for loose behavior won't hold up against the many, many, many, reasons to abstain. 'Just do it or you won't be cool?' Um, yeah. I'm real impressed..... "NOT!" (Maybe they need to call Virgins losers to feel better about themselves---which is an indication of how wrong it is)
I don't mean to get up on a soap-box and I'm not judging those who choose not to wait. But to call people who chose to abstain losers is ludicrous.
I feel sorry for children having to grow up now. The pressure is not just coming from their peers but also media and society in general, which seems to be encouraging questionable behavior. Most of it involves immediate gratification and to heck with the consequences.
There are indeed consequences for our actions, whether we like it or not.
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Very true. I've often thought of it this way.
"As for VH1 and their 'special' they can't be subjective about it because their argument for loose behavior won't hold up against the many, many, many, reasons to abstain. 'Just do it or you won't be cool?'"
These were my thoughts exactly. Granted, they make a few good points (such as talking to your kids about sex rather than completely ignoring the subject). But overall they pretty much scoffed at those who had made the decision to wait until marriage. They pointed out various celebrities who were virgins, how they eventually lost their virginity, but didn't really touch on the fact that many of these celebrities are living rather unhappy lives. The attitude of this special was "these people who decide to stay virgins are going to lose" and that's what got my hackles up.
I don't care what people say, the media does have influence. I mean, it's the media, it's what we see everyday when we watch TV. How can it not have some kind of influence?