In Which I Have a New Pet Peeve

[kriadydragon]

When someone says they're going to cook dinner and they don't.

And they don't...

And they're still not cooking anything...

Then it's eight o'clock at night and no dinner.

It's not that I'm one of those people who expects dinner to be ready at a certain time or anything. It's that if something comes up and that person isn't able to cook or doesn't want to then it would be nice to know while there's still time to both think of something to cook and cook it. I'd be more than happy to cook if someone else isn't able to or doesn't want to, but there needs to be time and energy to figure out what to put together, make sure you have the needed ingredients to put it together, go and fetch the needed ingredients if we don't and to put it together in time so that we're not eating at ten o'clock at night.

I've also discovered that I can get incredibly irritable when hungry. Really, really irritable.

ETA: I forgot to say that family is staying with us, and that means people who volunteer to cook if they have specific dinner ideas or want something only they know how to make. I'm usually the cook of the house but I've been more than happy to step aside and let others prepare dinner... that is, if they prepare dinner :/

Comments

[karri-kln1671.livejournal.com]

Things like that make me grouchy, as well. I much prefer if people say no to doing something than say yes and then flake. It's so much more of a hassle to sort things out after the thing was supposed to be done than to just expect to do it myself.

[kriadydragon.livejournal.com]

Heh, it's why I tend to be very much a do-it-yourself type. I kind of dislike having to rely on others, sometimes, not because I don't trust them, but because stuff happens and obligations can't always be met. I've been the chef of the house for some time, but we have family staying with us, which means more volunteers to cook. But stuff happens, no on is cooking, and by the time anyone realize dinner isn't happening it's too late to think of something to make and make it. Which wouldn't be a big deal if we can just know ahead of time that someone else needs to cook.

[kristen999.livejournal.com]

That's when I make a sandwich. Then again, no one ever makes me dinner...lol

[kriadydragon.livejournal.com]

I'm usually the one who does the cooking, but since we have family staying with us it's become a matter of who volunteers first. Thus the frustration when someone says "I'll make dinner!" and then it doesn't happen :/

[kristen999.livejournal.com]

Oh, lolz at your expense, babe. The family staying with you adds a whole new spin to your post because as is; well, I bet you can see what I saw :-P

(hugs)

Yeah, that is annoying.

[kriadydragon.livejournal.com]

Heh, yeah, I did have the thought long after the fact that this might probably come across as someone having an entitlement tantrum ;)

[timespirt.livejournal.com]

Take out?

I've never had that problem because no one offers to cook for me ever.

[kriadydragon.livejournal.com]

I'll often suggest pizza for dinner, but cooking ourselves is cheaper :/

As I said above, I used to be the one who would cook (otherwise we'd have the same thing every night) but we have family living with us for the time being, and cooking has become a volunteer thing. And that's where the frustration happens, because someone says they'll cook, they don't, and by the time the rest of us realize it isn't happening it's often too late to figure out what to make and make it before it's time to go to bed :/

[timespirt.livejournal.com]

I would feel the same way, why say you will and then ignore it and there is no dinner? That is not right if people are staying with you and said they would cook.

[kriadydragon.livejournal.com]

It doesn't happen often, thankfully. People just get caught up with what they are doing so run out of time or are too tired to cook. Be that as it may, I do wish we'd get into the habit of saying "hey, I can't cook tonight so if someone else wants too..."

Although I may just take a page from my mom's book of handling things - have back-up dinner ideas and when it's six o'clock and no one's cooking, start whipping out the frying pans myself ;).

[timespirt.livejournal.com]

Maybe make some stuff ahead of time and freeze it would make it easy enough?

[black-raven135.livejournal.com]

I can full relate.......
It is why I no longer participated in family dinners
for the holidays e.g. my cousin insisted on cooking
Thanksgiving dinner
We would go and when we arrived there was no sign of
preparation let alone dinner.
It would involve hours of drinking and then she would finally get around to it
I finally told my parents "I am no longer going"
Dad replied "But what shall we say to them about your absence?"
"Tell them the truth that I did not want to go"
We had similar thing happen for my sister's birthday when her friend Joan invited us to their home.
When we arrived same scenario as my cousin........
Finally one of her guests asked her if she planned to fix lunch or what?

BTW I am VERY irritable when I am hungry....and I know why, my sugar drops like a rock...

[kriadydragon.livejournal.com]

We would go and when we arrived there was no sign of
preparation let alone dinner.
It would involve hours of drinking and then she would finally get around to it

O.o

Thanksgiving dinner? Really? And for a whole bunch of people? That's just... not right. Even when it was just my mom, sister and myself we'd start getting things ready the day before and get cooking early in the morning.

[black-raven135.livejournal.com]

YES and that is why I stopped going.......I got
tired of arriving at the specified time and then it would
be whenever........later
My BIL regularly eats a snack before they go to a friend's
home for dinner, no idea when it might be served
BTW my cousin's mother was just like that too...

[imbecamiel.livejournal.com]

Gah. Yes, that sort of situation - :P You wind up waiting and waiting, because you figure they've got things under control and you don't want to be a nag... and then by the time it becomes evident that they actually don't, it's late and incredibly frustrating and inconvenient to actually do anything about it. Communication, people! *flails*

[kriadydragon.livejournal.com]

I'm just going to take a page from my mom's way of doing things and just cook when it looks like no one is cooking :/

[imbecamiel.livejournal.com]

Probably as well. XD And hey, it's got the bonus that if someone else had been intending to, they'll often see it as an unanticipated favor... *shrugs*

[ninja007.livejournal.com]

Eeecckkk! Family staying over. That sucks in many, many ways...

[kriadydragon.livejournal.com]

Surprisingly it hasn't been that bad. They have the basement, we have the upstairs and we do our best to give each other space. So it hasn't been as stressful as I thought it was going to be. The only major points of stress have been when someone says they're going to cook and they don't and the bathroom (we only have one bathroom).

[nefhiriel.livejournal.com]

Oh. Ugh. Yes.

I'm shamefully irritable when I'm hungry. And when I haven't had my coffee yet, either? It's just mortifying how easy it is to rile me up. That's why I generally make a beeline for food, then coffee, before I try conversing with anyone beyond, "Good morning." XD

[kriadydragon.livejournal.com]

It's that complete lack of energy that makes it impossible to put up with anything ;) I always feel bad about it afterward but while hungry and irritable I just don't care. So I've taken to having snacks if it looks like dinner may either be a while or there's a good chance it won't happen at all. It actually helps a little.

[nefhiriel.livejournal.com]

Ah, yes, pre-dinner snacks are essential, especially since we don't normally eat dinner until seven o'clock. :P