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I feel like I've been gone whenever I haven't posted anything for a while.
It's been a busy past couple of weeks. My younger sister got married this Satruday, and much of October was spent getting ready for that wedding (making decorations, sceduling appointments to get various things done, baking, baking, and more baking...). We ended up with more cupcakes and cookies than we know what to do with, but as they say, better to make a lot and have a lot left than to make too little and run out. Thankfully, we know a lot of people. I plan on taking as many cupcakes as I can to the animal shelter tomorrow for the office and clinic staff.
But all craziness aside, it was all lovely. The ceremony was sweet, and the reception turned out great. My sister went with a fall theme and the decorations turned out beautiful. My sister in law made some crates out of old fest posts, and she also made a stand for the apple cider and hot chocolate. It also pays to collect old farms things, like wheels and old milk cans, which really came in handy.
Oh, and if you want to know the kind of man my sister married, he was the one who did the flower arrangments - I kid you not - and they were gorgeous. They are a totally adorable couple. The first time I met him was when we all went to see Guadrians of the Galaxy, so there wasn't too much chit-chat between us. But even so, I liked him right off the bat. Which was saying something since I'd always been "meh" about the guys my sister had dated in the past.
One thing that was a major relief was that I was able to focus on my sister and my happiness for her without any self-pity over my own single state getting in the way. It was something I was exceedingly worried about, since it ended up being a major source of depression for me last yeara when I attended the wedding of my two nieces (although there were other factors involved at the time as well). I do want to be married and I do want to have a family someday, but I'm also, finally, at peace with my current life and the fact that I'm still single. Just as long as my life moves forward in some capacity, whether it's me finally finding a job, my books taking off, or something, then I'm good.
Speaking of which, now that all the wedding craziness is over, I can get back to crazy writing stuff, which I haven't had time to do.
It's been a busy past couple of weeks. My younger sister got married this Satruday, and much of October was spent getting ready for that wedding (making decorations, sceduling appointments to get various things done, baking, baking, and more baking...). We ended up with more cupcakes and cookies than we know what to do with, but as they say, better to make a lot and have a lot left than to make too little and run out. Thankfully, we know a lot of people. I plan on taking as many cupcakes as I can to the animal shelter tomorrow for the office and clinic staff.
But all craziness aside, it was all lovely. The ceremony was sweet, and the reception turned out great. My sister went with a fall theme and the decorations turned out beautiful. My sister in law made some crates out of old fest posts, and she also made a stand for the apple cider and hot chocolate. It also pays to collect old farms things, like wheels and old milk cans, which really came in handy.
Oh, and if you want to know the kind of man my sister married, he was the one who did the flower arrangments - I kid you not - and they were gorgeous. They are a totally adorable couple. The first time I met him was when we all went to see Guadrians of the Galaxy, so there wasn't too much chit-chat between us. But even so, I liked him right off the bat. Which was saying something since I'd always been "meh" about the guys my sister had dated in the past.
One thing that was a major relief was that I was able to focus on my sister and my happiness for her without any self-pity over my own single state getting in the way. It was something I was exceedingly worried about, since it ended up being a major source of depression for me last yeara when I attended the wedding of my two nieces (although there were other factors involved at the time as well). I do want to be married and I do want to have a family someday, but I'm also, finally, at peace with my current life and the fact that I'm still single. Just as long as my life moves forward in some capacity, whether it's me finally finding a job, my books taking off, or something, then I'm good.
Speaking of which, now that all the wedding craziness is over, I can get back to crazy writing stuff, which I haven't had time to do.
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Date: 2014-11-10 07:32 pm (UTC)From:Believe me when I say there are A LOT of things worse than being single.....
and I say that in dead seriousness....
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Date: 2014-11-10 08:35 pm (UTC)From:But, I managed to come to terms with it all, and although it still does get to me in small ways, over all I'm in a much better head space than I was last year, so I was able to be happy for my sister as well as accept the fact that, yes, I'm still single, but it's okay.
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Date: 2014-11-10 08:57 pm (UTC)From:I now think 'Been there, done that.....don't want to do that again'
I love men, but they sure come with too much baggage...
I thought so even dating but when you marry, it can become even more trying
>;-)
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Date: 2014-11-10 10:38 pm (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2014-11-10 10:47 pm (UTC)From:I did not marry till I was 30...and he was another Navy
officer, but it turned out that that was the ONLY thing we had in common.....
I don't believe in living with someone before marriage and
Jim lived aboard ship and had stewards pick up after him
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Date: 2014-11-10 08:50 pm (UTC)From:no subject
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Date: 2014-11-11 04:41 am (UTC)From:The wedding does sound just lovely. I'm glad the man your sister ended up with is one you can be really happy to see her with. :)
I know so, so well what you mean, about wanting to be really happy for them when people around you get married, but struggling sometimes when you'd so like to be married yourself. It's been something I've really been working through with God and myself lately, to come to a place of much greater peace and contentment with where I'm at now, even while I continue to hope to get married and have a family in the future.
I hope you're able to settle down and enjoy some peace and quiet for working on other things, now the whirlwind is over!
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Date: 2014-11-12 11:24 pm (UTC)From:Praying a lot has helped, both praying to be able to eventually meet someone and praying to accept my life as it is and be at peace with it. I've always been taught that if you can't find happiness in your life as it is, then even if you do get what you want out out of life you may still not be happy, especially once the novelty of it's worn off. That's something I remind myself of constantly.
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Date: 2014-11-12 11:30 pm (UTC)From:Very, very true. And if you go through life thinking you won't be happy until you find someone to marry... Honestly, no person, however wonderful, is going to completely fulfill your needs, and the weight of that kind of expectation - and the ensuing disappointment when your spouse proves to be human and limited too - can destroy even strong marriages. Important things to keep reminding ourselves of.
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Date: 2014-11-16 03:52 am (UTC)From:so glad you have found a peace with life. I'm finding my own peace as well. I now have a tablet so should find it easier to keep up to date with you *hugs*