Must... Rant!

[kriadydragon]

So I made the mistake of watching this "special" (an VH1 which really should have been my biggest warning) on virginity. I don't know why I thought they would be subjective about it, I don't know why I thought they would actual show some respect toward virginity and those who choose to wait until they're married before they have sex. I don't know why I watched this show when most of the media has made up its mind that virginity = losers.

I am so sick and tired of virginity being put down, and that if you're a virgin then *sarcasm*obviously there's something wrong with you*sarcasm* or that waiting until you're married is impossible because *sarcasm*everyone fails to biology eventually*sarcasm*. Yeah, tell that to all the people I know who waited until they were married and, oh, yeah, they're married, and didn't hurry to get married just so they could lose their virginity.

Humans have this nifty thing called agency. Agency is the freedom to chose, to decide whether to give in to biological urges or to hold off. If a person doesn't want to have sex, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them, it doesn't mean they're asexual or anything else. It simply means they made a choice and are sticking with it. What the crap is wrong with that? Why has virginity become such an "ew, yucky!" thing? And how can no one see what is horribly wrong with this picture! (because, last I checked, it was usually sexually promiscuous people who had to worry about sexually transmitted diseases, not virgins. And, last I heard, hasn't teen pregnancy been on the rise?)

Nothing gets my hackles up like anti-virginity sentiments. All the more so because it's so subtle, not out-and-out anti but certainly leaning heavily in that direction - as in like trying to hide an elephant behind a baby tree :P

Comments

[vecturist.livejournal.com]

I had something similar happen right after I finished college - I had appendicitis and when I went to the emergency room the doctors kept asking if Icould be pregnant. They didn't get the hint until I flat-out told them, and even then they didn't quite believe me (or the reactions I got - "I didn't think anyone could be your age and still be a virgin" - they still ran a pregnancy test).

[kriadydragon.livejournal.com]

Rude much? :P I would have probably chewed them a new one for that one. There's just no respect for anything or anyone these days.

[syble4.livejournal.com]

Where they expecting immaculate conception?

[vecturist.livejournal.com]

That was actually what I kept telling them!

[crashbarrier.livejournal.com]

I had the same issue but without the appendicitis (I had developed IBS). The doctor was going through his spiel of the various tests and said .. "and you will need a pregnancy test" and I said.. "Why?.." he looked at me like I was stupid and said "To check your not preganant".. and I said "But how can i be preganant if I've never had sex"... he kind of looked at me like I had just taken my head off and placed it on the table.. fiddled with his computer then blasted back into his speil again..

it seems that virginity past the age of your teens is very rare..