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So I made the mistake of watching this "special" (an VH1 which really should have been my biggest warning) on virginity. I don't know why I thought they would be subjective about it, I don't know why I thought they would actual show some respect toward virginity and those who choose to wait until they're married before they have sex. I don't know why I watched this show when most of the media has made up its mind that virginity = losers.
I am so sick and tired of virginity being put down, and that if you're a virgin then *sarcasm*obviously there's something wrong with you*sarcasm* or that waiting until you're married is impossible because *sarcasm*everyone fails to biology eventually*sarcasm*. Yeah, tell that to all the people I know who waited until they were married and, oh, yeah, they're married, and didn't hurry to get married just so they could lose their virginity.
Humans have this nifty thing called agency. Agency is the freedom to chose, to decide whether to give in to biological urges or to hold off. If a person doesn't want to have sex, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them, it doesn't mean they're asexual or anything else. It simply means they made a choice and are sticking with it. What the crap is wrong with that? Why has virginity become such an "ew, yucky!" thing? And how can no one see what is horribly wrong with this picture! (because, last I checked, it was usually sexually promiscuous people who had to worry about sexually transmitted diseases, not virgins. And, last I heard, hasn't teen pregnancy been on the rise?)
Nothing gets my hackles up like anti-virginity sentiments. All the more so because it's so subtle, not out-and-out anti but certainly leaning heavily in that direction - as in like trying to hide an elephant behind a baby tree :P
I am so sick and tired of virginity being put down, and that if you're a virgin then *sarcasm*obviously there's something wrong with you*sarcasm* or that waiting until you're married is impossible because *sarcasm*everyone fails to biology eventually*sarcasm*. Yeah, tell that to all the people I know who waited until they were married and, oh, yeah, they're married, and didn't hurry to get married just so they could lose their virginity.
Humans have this nifty thing called agency. Agency is the freedom to chose, to decide whether to give in to biological urges or to hold off. If a person doesn't want to have sex, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them, it doesn't mean they're asexual or anything else. It simply means they made a choice and are sticking with it. What the crap is wrong with that? Why has virginity become such an "ew, yucky!" thing? And how can no one see what is horribly wrong with this picture! (because, last I checked, it was usually sexually promiscuous people who had to worry about sexually transmitted diseases, not virgins. And, last I heard, hasn't teen pregnancy been on the rise?)
Nothing gets my hackles up like anti-virginity sentiments. All the more so because it's so subtle, not out-and-out anti but certainly leaning heavily in that direction - as in like trying to hide an elephant behind a baby tree :P
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Date: 2010-07-10 04:13 am (UTC)From:I was a virgin when I married and stayed married for 19 years. Unfortunately we divorced but not because the sex was lousy...it was darn awesome but because we failed to continue to communicate and grow with each other. I lost my best friend somewhere along the way and it was very sad that we could never find each other.
Now some 10 plus years since my divorce I have been celibate. Not because I hate men, or sex or am gay... but because I *choose* to be picky. I choose to enter into a another marriage (if fate dictates) without the emotional baggage of having *slept* around. I believe in the old fashion - no sex before marriage even though I've been there done that and am more than proud of the fact. My faith and my *personal* perference fuels this decision and in the end it doesn't matter what others think I have to live with ME not THEM.
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Date: 2010-07-10 05:09 am (UTC)From:Well said :D